Good day all, in response to the increase in transphobia we’ve experience since the For Women Scotland v Scotland Supreme Court decision, seemingly a mix of genuine malice and people tripping up with a topic they’re unfamiliar with, I’ve taken the initiative to write some guidelines on how to engage in the topic and clearing up some common misconceptions.
https://guide.feddit.uk/politics/transphobia.html
I’m not all that happy with them, I want something more comprehensive but my time has been pretty taxed lately and I don’t want my perfectionism to stand in the way of having these out. If there’s any issues, glaring omissions or whatnot, then please let me know or make a pull request here.
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the title makes it sound like this is a post on how to be transphobic. it’s very funny pls don’t change it.
Step One: write a harry potter book
Step zero point five: absolutely butcher Latin
I think you mean “carnifico Latinum!”
Step two: Open an X account
Step 3: Buy a massive mouldy castle in scotland
Should we all be transphobic now father?
I’ve been hiding in a builders merchant for the last month, but thought I’d poke my head out to say thankyou for writing this up.
Giving a framework for discussion, but making it clear that using it as a stick to beat trans people with will not be tolerated, is a very good way to organise things.
Thank you! I appreciate the work you’ve put in to this!
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That’s a really concise, clear and well written guide. Worth reading for general life, not just for feddit.
Thanks for taking the time to put that together :)
Great initiative. Looks pretty well written from my point of view.
What’s going to happen to repeated guideline breakers ?
Depends on which guideline they break. The 41% one will probably be an insta-ban. Others will likely be an initial warning followed by temp bans escalating to a permaban.
Just want to point out that suicide rates/attempts are more a reflection of the way transgender people are treated than a some kind of pervasive mental illness. High-functioning autistic people also have very high rates of suicidal ideation and attempts, because–much like transgender people–they (we) tend to be socially isolated and ostracized. Transgender people that are in accepting communities and who have non-shitty parents tend to have much, much lower rates of suicidal ideation and attempts.
I’m trans and I learned a lot myself from this. I might have brought up the 41% thing and not knowing its use, miscommunicated what I meant in support of trans rights. Glad to have read this, being trans doesn’t automatically make you aware of every aspect of the conversations.
I imagine it would still depend on context. The guidelines don’t say that the 41% figure is inaccurate (and from some extremely light googling of the cited organisation, ASFSP doesn’t appear to be an anti trans pressure group so i’m inclined to take that figure on its face value). thus talking about that figure in the context of a wider discussion on trans issues, which absolutely includes a sky high suicide rate, is probably fine.
But as the guidelines say; using that figure to encourage someone to commit suicide is almost certainly a contravention. As is using it to justify ignoring a trans person or trans persons basic right to self determination
That said i’m not a mod, i’m not in their heads, so i could be wrong
Love to see this - far too many people perpetuating transphobia :(
Not sure trans phobia and perpetrated are correct terms. The purpetrrate tends to indicate a choice. Where phobia dose not tend to.
A phobia is an irrational fear but normally not one that can be controlled.
Transfasism may be a better term.
This is generally very clear and well written, but I would clarify that while using ‘biological man/woman’ may be a misinformed/malicious may to refer to cis people, using ‘biological male/female/intersex’ to refer to one’s own biological sex is in fact a relatively common term that many trans people (such as myself) prefer to AGAB
Good point, that’s definitely something I see fairly often. I don’t like it myself (also trans), but should be on here.
I appreciate the care you’ve put into this. By choosing a neutral tone, you have created a framework that allows for opposing viewpoints to exist in discussions of the topic so long as the participants stay within established guidelines. I believe that this approach is an even-handed way to limit fanaticism and promote acceptance.
Perfection, though sometimes alluring, is an exhausting pursuit. What you’ve accomplished is realistic, immediately applicable, and amendable. In my opinion, that is infinitely more useful than the ever-fleeting notion of attainable perfection.
Well done, in both the creation of the document and in your personal effort to not allow perfectionism to stand in the way of something good.
As long as you keep blocking and banning anyone that doesn’t tow the line, your bound to create the appearance that you’ve accomplished something!
I understand this. I think what kind of annoyed me the most is
Just as it’s racist to believe that black people are inherently less intelligent, even if you don’t necessarily hate them, it’s transphobic to believe that a trans person’s identity is worth less or is less valid that a cis person’s, even if you don’t feel any malice for trans people.
I don’t really think it’s fair equivalence to make. I think it would be transphobic to claim someone is less intelligent or should be penalised in society, although I am probably approaching this with a philosophical/theological view rather than how people should be treated.
I don’t really like the idea of being told how to think about things. I think this is a slight step too far, if it means forcing someone to agree with something they’re not comfortable with agreeing with.
I’d rather if there was a more clear-cut “this is a controversial issue - please don’t talk about it”. I wouldn’t expect a transgender person to have to care about anyone else’s moral convictions except their own. As long as they’re treated equally. So I think I can moreso accept a “please don’t talk about it” as I think any such discussion about “what is a man/woman” isn’t actually a productive way of looking at things. Because moreso what concerns me isn’t if people should be given gender affirming care, but at what stage is it appropriate and who should pay for it.
Another thing I don’t really like about it:
For a more in depth look at the question, and why anti-trans activists are wrong about it, see the Lonerbox video “What Is A Woman?” A Response to Matt Walsh. (Fair warning contains a lot of Twitter lefty shitposter jokes/language).
Is this really unbiased if it’s what "Twitter lefty shitposter"s think? I’ve found that group to be pretty toxic and malicious, and chosen to avoid that crowd.
But apart from that, the guidelines are quite clear on how to act on the instance. I just wish there was more dialogue about the issue.
That’s the problem. You’re trying to equate being trans, which is something internal, that your mind manifests, with something like being black. A physical trait that is external, that one cannot hide, or run from.
You pervert the nature of the discussion when trying to base truth off false equivalence
You’re trying to equate being trans, which is something internal, that your mind manifests
I thought that’s what a lot of it was? Someone who chooses to identify as another gender
If I’m wrong about this, please correct me.
Yeah, being trans is either a choice, or an internal mental manifestation that someone has no control over, but regardless, it’s not something others see immediately, unless you choose to draw attention to it
It comes from gender dysphoria, doesn’t it?
If it’s someone making a choice, then why should we respect that in the same way we should respect people with gender dysphoria identifying as their selected gender?
So is it black peoples or trans peoples identities that you believe are worth less?
What more discussion is there to be had?
You know what, I don’t even want to know.
I don’t think you read at all what I said correctly.
You said you don’t like people telling you how to think. But no one is.
They are just telling you that your an arsehole if you think a certain way.
You have the right to think how ever you like. But we will also judge you based on that thinking.
It’s less telling you that you’re an arsehole and moreso a threat of a ban. I think the downvoting is usually enough to ward away arseholes
Are you under the impression the admins can read your mind?
I wish people could understand me better
This is the bit you object to?
it’s transphobic to believe that a trans person’s identity is worth less or is less valid that a cis person’s, even if you don’t feel any malice for trans people.
So invalidating a trans person’s whole identity doesn’t count as transphobic in your view, and you go on to object to moderation actions being taken on these grounds! You claim you want more dialogue but what you actually want is moderators to tolerate your transphobic pontifications without consequences for you, never mind the affect on other people’s mental health.
What sort of effect on other people’s mental health are you referring to here?
Being invalidated upsets trans people. Suicide rates are alarmingly high in the community because of that kind of whole-being rejection. Your transphobic pontifications are idle speculation for you but can be powerfully upsetting for trans people. I don’t know how you can be so devoid of empathy or emotional intelligence that you don’t get that or so low on reading comprehension that you couldn’t deduce it from context. Trans people need protecting from people discussing whether they have a right to exist.
I see the misunderstanding here. I’m not talking about discussing if transgender people have a right to exist, nor speculating on individual people’s identities. I’m talking about respectful philosophical discussion around the subject.
I’d rather if there was a more clear-cut “this is a controversial issue - please don’t talk about it”
Ah yes, sweep it under the carpet and hope it all just goes away. Such a mature way of dealing with a difficult subject.
I think it’s better than censoring one side of a controversial subject
I don’t really think it’s fair equivalence to make. I think it would be transphobic to claim someone is less intelligent or should be penalised in society, although I am probably approaching this with a philosophical/theological view rather than how people should be treated.
I don’t really like the idea of being told how to think about things. I think this is a slight step too far, if it means forcing someone to agree with something they’re not comfortable with agreeing with.
This is a social discussion forum not a linguist philosophy one, the rules and guidelines are going to reflect this. Part of that is setting the boundaries for what opinions are and aren’t acceptable, and what the working definitions of what we consider bigotry are. Saying these opinions aren’t allowed is necessarily going to exclude people who actually believe them.
Besides, epistemologically, there is no reason to see a trans person’s “I’m a man” as less than a cis person’s “I’m a man”. If you want to have these discussions, then you need to do it in an appropriate context. The comment section under a trans article isn’t really the best place as this comes across as trollish and like you’re trying to sneak in transphobia under the guise of philosophy.
Is this really unbiased if it’s what "Twitter lefty shitposter"s think? I’ve found that group to be pretty toxic and malicious, and chosen to avoid that crowd.
That video is mostly an application of Wittgenstein’s idea of family resemblances to the ‘what is a woman’ debate, should be right up your ally if what you want is philosophical discussion.
I don’t think such a discussion on a trans forum is appropriate. But what if it’s a discussion on a more conservative forum or on a post about theology?
What do you mean by epistemologically?
This is pretty categorically not a conservative forum, so I don’t really see your point. If you want to discuss the Biblical definition of man/woman and whether that includes trans people in a theology post then sure? That would be appropriate context.
What do you mean by epistemologically?
I mean that fundamentally, there is nothing more true about a cis person saying they’re a man than a trans person saying they’re a man.
This is pretty categorically not a conservative forum
This comment along with others like
This is a social discussion forum not a linguist philosophy one
That wouldn’t really change the fact this is a place for discussion of things with other people.
make it clear that feddit.uk has an agenda: it’s for lefty social discussion.
Adding @tom@feddit.uk @Emperor@feddit.uk
Can I suggest making that agenda clear in the “Who are we?” section of feddit.uk 's front page so that people are aware of what they’re signing up for and that this isn’t just a general UK instance? In particular, it seems egregious to me that there is no mention of the fact that conservatives aren’t welcome.
conservatives aren’t welcome.
That’s a very dishonest reading of what I wrote, but not surprising coming from you. This not being a conservative forum isn’t the same as conservatives not being welcome, I believe we even have some around. But they still have to follow the rules.
This is getting very tiresome for what is a very little ask, don’t be transphobic. This has been a rule on the site literally from inception.
This not being a conservative forum isn’t the same as conservatives not being welcome, I believe we even have some around.
This is irrelevant to the issue at hand. Whatever it is that feddit.uk is not, please state that up front in the “Who are we?” section. If feddit.uk is not a conservative forum, please state “feddit.uk is not a conservative forum” in the “Who are we?” section. That would at least give people more clarity on what feddit.uk is, who is here and what they can expect when they post from here.
This is getting very tiresome for what is a very little ask
By the same token, clarifying what feddit.uk is and is not in the “Who are we?” section seems to me like a very little ask.
don’t be transphobic. This has been a rule on the site literally from inception.
But the new “guidelines” and more importantly the statements from an admin (yourself) in comments under this post about what feddit.uk is not, are all new. As far as I know, philisophical discussion of trans issues had never been prohibited before.
My understanding of feddit.uk until this post was that it would reflect general wider social mores of British society: tolerance, even of those who have what we feel to be reprehensible views, up to the point where it’s clear a person is uncivil or unreasonable. Now my understanding of feddit.uk is different: there are some areas of discussion which are not tolerated under any circumstances, regardless civility or reasonableness. There is now an ideological component, not to the makeup of the user population (which has always been obvious), but to the governance of the instance which is a whole different kettle of fish and very new. Now, feddit.uk has an official ideological position: not a conservative forum, social discussion, no philosophical debate about trans issues, etc.
Are detrans discussions prohibited?
I asked before but didn’t get a response.
I don’t even know what ‘detrans discussions’ means. As long as you don’t just use the fact some people transition as a cudgel against the idea of medical transition, then I don’t see why not.
I don’t even know what ‘detrans discussions’ means
I mean discussions similar to those in Reddit’s /r/detrans, /r/actual_detrans, /r/ask_detransition, etc. or in fact any discussions around detransitioning. In my experience, such communities and discussions very much do not toe the trans party line.
/r/detrans
I checked it out and it seems like an absolute cesspool, so no ‘discussions’ like the what happens there aren’t allowed.
In my experience, such communities and discussions very much do not toe the trans party line.
Here is a quote from the top post in that community today:
How long will we pretend they aren’t violent braindead porn-addicted narcissists who hate us because our existence challenges their narrative and provides a living experience for those ones who aren’t completely sure about transmuting themselves into fake males/females so that they can address what’s wrong with them and why they do feel so much distress about their bodies and biological sex?
Is it really any wonder why people not drowning in this trans-hating sludge would find this objectionable?
Here is a quote from the top post in that community today:
That’s not the kind of discussion I was referring to although there are indeed a lot of angry detransitioners there. I meant more serious discussion like the following. And it’s worth bearing in mind that /r/detrans only allows participation by people who either are currently trans or who were trans and have detransitioned:
It’s crazy how much of trans culture is “letting the intrusive thoughts win”. There’s this whole mindset of “you are your urges and if you don’t act on them you’re denying your true self, which will have dire consequences”.
Sentiments I’ve seen expressed in online trans spaces include:
- “Cis” people don’t question their gender. If you ever question your gender you are not “cis”.
- If you are not “cis” you need to do some kind of transition otherwise your life is a lie and you will be miserable forever and probably commit suicide.
- Your endogenous sex hormones are poisoning/ruining your body and you need to start HRT ASAP to prevent further damage.
- You need to start transitioning ASAP, every moment you spend not having started transition is wasted and a lie. If you wait too long it will be too late, you will never be able to live as your true self, and you will be miserable forever and probably commit suicide.
- Any mental health issues/life problems you’re experiencing were actually gender dysphoria all along.
- If you search the memories of your past, you’ll find evidence that you were always meant to transition.
- If you’re unsure about your “gender identity” you should try transition anyway so you can be sure. Try out names, pronouns and outfits. Try HRT.
- If you are dysphoric and HRT lessens it, transition was the right choice. If HRT makes your dysphoria worse, or you start experiencing dysphoria on HRT when you didn’t before, this also means that transition was the right choice, because HRT helped you to stop repressing your feelings.
- If you are questioning your gender but have neutral/positive feelings about some sexed part of your body, you are in denial. Once you fully accept your identity you’ll realise that you hate that body part too and were repressing your true feelings.
- If you want to transition, you should. If you don’t want to transition or are worried/scared that you’ll have to transition, this also means that you should, because you’re repressing/in denial.
- Any doubts you have about transition are denial and internalised transphobia.
These people are straight up encouraging obsession and paranoia. Once you’re introduced to the culture and start “questioning” (and all kinds of things count as “questioning”), every path you’re presented with ends with “you need to transition ASAP otherwise things will get massively worse and it might kill you”. The brainrot is difficult to eradicate, and potentially life-ruining for anyone with OCD, intrusive thoughts, hyperfixations, or similar issues.
Anyone who expresses dissatisfaction with the state of the community gets chastised and/or kicked out. This happened to me once. A few years ago I was in a Discord with some friends, many of whom started identifying as trans/non-binary. One day I said something they interpreted as “transphobic” and was promptly dogpiled and banned from the server (one person sent me a high and mighty message about how I should “rescind my statement” if I wanted to be unbanned). People from the server contacted my best friend and urged him to stop associating with me (he was a reasonable guy so he didn’t).
– https://www.reddit.com/r/detrans/comments/1kdqur4/trans_culture_cognitohazards/
Is this kind of discussion prohibited?
That’s more than just an ‘angry detransitioners’, it’s pretty textbook transphobia. It’s a problem with the entire subreddit, it’s not a place for detransistors to talk and support each other (I imaging detransitioning is emotionally quite gruelling), but a place for people opposed to the very idea of transition to express some pretty horrific views on it. The vast majority of the top posts in that community are talking about is the idea that transition, and the wider trans community, is an insidious plot to prey on the vulnerable and it taints everything that comes out of there, even the post you linked to.
This post also has nothing to do with detransition, so it’s quite suspect that you asked about ‘detransition discussions’ only to bait-and-switch to criticism of online trans communities. Yes, there are problems with online trans communities that can be pointed out, this isn’t inherently transphobic; plenty of trans people criticise egg culture, for example. But the way that community does it is transphobic, saying the trans community is an insidious cult that preys on the vulnerable with lies is textbook transphobia.
I’m going to stop engaging now as this got quite tedious a while ago. I’ll address situations as they arise, and add any needed clarification to the guidelines.
I was going to facetiously say
- Step 1: don’t be a bigot
- Step 2: there is no step 2
But those guidelines are a pretty good description of how to follow step 1 on this issue, so let’s adjust it to
- Step 1: don’t be a bigot
- Step 2: if in doubt, read those guidelines
- Step 3: see step 1
It’s crazy we even need guidelines to not be an asshole lol
