Nah, I think you might be on to something with the third option and it’s something to keep in mind. In fact I might even need to copy and paste your comment to remind myself about it because I think sometimes my anger gets the better of me in these situations.
But it can be so fucking hard to keep the anger at the bay. Just last night, discussing the fact that a poll in Germany showed that 26% of young men support the nu nazi party versus 11% of women, I had someone say to me “oh but women believe in horoscopes, so they’re just as bad.” How do you not flip your shit when coming across that kind of ‘logic’?
And this brings me to another thing, seeing as this place is supposed to be all left wing and shit. There are a lot of supposed left wing people that will speak in the exact same way and have all the exact same points as right wing people when it comes to this discussion about men falling for right wing grifters at over twice the rate as women (as revealed by those Germany stats and many many other stats). A lot of supposed left wing people that will clutch their pearls and cry “sexist!” at the slightest suggestion that 26% of men versus 11% of women means that there’s a problem that needs to be addressed.
So it actually feels a little bit like being stuck between a rock and hard place. It’s not in my nature to just hold my tongue when I can see there’s something wrong but I kinda wish it was because trying to have a constructive conversation about this anywhere other than in specific Reddit subs where you’re preaching to the choir feels like banging your head against the wall.
So unfortunately, it seems to me that it’s not just right wing men that need toddler reasoning in order to convince them but left wing men too. Remember there’s a reason that twoxchromosomes and any other large women’s spaces on Reddit have never been able to take off here on Lemmy. Not even WitchesvsPatriarchy survived this place. And that reason is downvote brigading. The same reason why LGBTQ+ communities need an instance with downvotes disabled. This is why I said earlier that I think women in leadership are the future. At least as far as progressive politics go. Because even progressive men seem to be further behind than women.
I hope you don’t mind if I ask your advice about something. I was going to post this in the non-binary community but it feels safer to do this here. I identify as non-binary / genderqueer but am amab. But I’ve been thinking of doing some shape shifting in these conversations and referring to myself as a man. I feel like it would be a lot more effective to have a ‘man’ saying these things rather than keeping it neutral and vague like I have been. Although this idea makes me feel like a liar too. What do you think?
Nah, I think you might be on to something with the third option and it’s something to keep in mind. In fact I might even need to copy and paste your comment to remind myself about it because I think sometimes my anger gets the better of me in these situations.
But it can be so fucking hard to keep the anger at the bay. Just last night, discussing the fact that a poll in Germany showed that 26% of young men support the nu nazi party versus 11% of women, I had someone say to me “oh but women believe in horoscopes, so they’re just as bad.” How do you not flip your shit when coming across that kind of ‘logic’?
And this brings me to another thing, seeing as this place is supposed to be all left wing and shit. There are a lot of supposed left wing people that will speak in the exact same way and have all the exact same points as right wing people when it comes to this discussion about men falling for right wing grifters at over twice the rate as women (as revealed by those Germany stats and many many other stats). A lot of supposed left wing people that will clutch their pearls and cry “sexist!” at the slightest suggestion that 26% of men versus 11% of women means that there’s a problem that needs to be addressed.
So it actually feels a little bit like being stuck between a rock and hard place. It’s not in my nature to just hold my tongue when I can see there’s something wrong but I kinda wish it was because trying to have a constructive conversation about this anywhere other than in specific Reddit subs where you’re preaching to the choir feels like banging your head against the wall.
So unfortunately, it seems to me that it’s not just right wing men that need toddler reasoning in order to convince them but left wing men too. Remember there’s a reason that twoxchromosomes and any other large women’s spaces on Reddit have never been able to take off here on Lemmy. Not even WitchesvsPatriarchy survived this place. And that reason is downvote brigading. The same reason why LGBTQ+ communities need an instance with downvotes disabled. This is why I said earlier that I think women in leadership are the future. At least as far as progressive politics go. Because even progressive men seem to be further behind than women.
I hope you don’t mind if I ask your advice about something. I was going to post this in the non-binary community but it feels safer to do this here. I identify as non-binary / genderqueer but am amab. But I’ve been thinking of doing some shape shifting in these conversations and referring to myself as a man. I feel like it would be a lot more effective to have a ‘man’ saying these things rather than keeping it neutral and vague like I have been. Although this idea makes me feel like a liar too. What do you think?