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  • AbsentBird@lemm.eeto196@lemmy.worldSex Rule
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    1 year ago

    If it wasn’t a sex act, then phone sex workers wouldn’t exist, erotica wouldn’t exist.

    There are a lot of things that aren’t always a sex act but can be in the right circumstances, arguably most things.

    Again, I assert it isn’t TABOO, but PRIVATE/PERSONAL. Just like my medical history isn’t taboo, it’s private and personal.

    Do you think it’s important to get consent from people before sharing your medical history?

    Regardless, it’s possible to discuss sex in ways that aren’t as private as medical history; it’s a common element in comedy, theater, and art.

    What shields abusers, ironically, is not discussing consent and not putting consent first.

    Multiple things can shield abusers. Consent and discussion of it is absolutely foremost, but if sex is taboo it makes conversation about sexual consent much rarer and less organic.

    Any topic can make people uncomfortable, sex, religion, politics, death; all things to avoid in polite company, but they’re also a big part of life and should be discussed freely imo.


  • AbsentBird@lemm.eeto196@lemmy.worldSex Rule
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    1 year ago

    This makes sense to me. The idea that discussion of sex is itself a sexual act seems like it muddies the topic.

    There’s certainly ways of discussing sex that require consent, like erotic roleplaying or something where you’re involving the other person directly, but that’s not what the original post is about.

    If any discussion of sex is taboo in public situations it leads to exactly the sort of issues OP is trying to reduce, where the norms of silence act as a shield for abusers.