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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • Invictus by William Ernst Henley

    When I was younger I clung to it’s message of perseverance. It ended up being the first poem that I ever memorized.

    Out of the night that covers me
    Black as the pit from pole to pole,
    I thank whatever gods may be
    For my unconquerable soul.
    
    In the fell clutch of circumstance,
    I have not winced nor cried aloud.
    Under the bludgeonings of chance
    My head is bloody, but unbowed.
    
    Beyond this place of wrath and tears
    Looms but the Horror of the shade,
    And yet the menace of the years
    Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.
    
    It matters not how strait the gate,
    How charged with punishments the scroll,
    I am the master of my fate
    I am the captain of my soul.
    

  • For me, it would essentially need to be a TARDIS.

    Whenever I think of immortality I immediately go to the end of all other life and the idea of knowing that I would eventually be doomed to an inescapable existence of total isolation. Long before that, but hundreds of years from now, I am sure that I would go literally insane with boredom. I need to know that there will always be something new, different, and interesting. A TARDIS would allow me to go anywhere, anytime, with anyone.

    I also fear eternal life in some preeminent imprisonment, either some form of external confinement, like being trapped at the bottom of the ocean by the crushing weight of the water around me, some form of locked-in syndrome. A TARDIS could operate on its own to save me from such a fate.

    If eternity ever becomes too much, a TARDIS would also give some options to potentially end my existence.




  • This sounds like it was a bad match for you and you are better off without them.

    In my opinion, the criteria for a successful relationship is one that encourages growth. It should provides a safe space where differences, changes and mistakes are accepted without judgement. Above all, you feel loved and supported. From your limited description it does not sound like he provided any of that.

    I think I’m just meant to be single.

    You are 20. You are likely still discovering the type of person you are and developing the strength and tools to be that person in the face of adversity. I think that you should enjoy being single and focus on you, not some “us”.

    Love who you are, build a strong and healthy relationship with yourself, and realize that you deserve somebody who will honor and respect all of you not just the bits that are convenient for them.