• kool_newt@lemm.ee
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      1 year ago

      Is chasing disabled people a valid kink? I’m trans and I know I dislike trans chasers, I would imagine many other people and groups are similar.

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        1 year ago

        Why would one preference be less valid than another?

        Perfectly fine to be into disabled trans people imo.

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          1 year ago

          It’s not that having a preference is problematic. There’s a huge difference between trans/disabled chasing and being open to dating trans and people with disabilities. Chasing is a sort of fetishization mixed in with some dumb ideas about what masculinity is. Whereas a preference in dating is more along the lines of ‘i like you and that part of you, you like me, let’s do things together that we like.’ The difference is about respect and equality in the relationship.

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            1 year ago

            I don’t know what your definition of “chasing” is, but whatever it may be it seems to be independent of the group that’s being “chased”.

            So in that case you could say “chasing” is bad while a preference is not, completely regardless of whether you’re talking about trans people, disabled people or any other group.