Say if someone came up to you and asked “If you were a boy/girl what would your name be?” could you answer them without needing think or is that not something most people give a thought to?
Hi. Trans person here.
This is how The Big Questions start. Good luck.
If you’re thinking about what your life would be as the opposite gender, then you’re already thought about gender more than most. Doesn’t necessarily mean you’re any flavor of trans, but generally this isn’t something cis folk think about.
No one can tell you who you are, especially an internet stranger. But if OP or anyone else has an answer to what name you would’ve had as the other sex, than this link is massively helpful in sorting through these thoughts.
Very interesting read even as a cis person. I don’t understand how anyone can read this and then believe any of the propaganda about trans people.
I knew the name I would have gotten if had been born a girl for multiple years before I came out as trans and now that is my real name.
So your parents chose your trans name? That’s awesome!
Kind of yeah 😊
but are your parents now transparent?
Same here!
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Same, but I was thinking that no way I’d go back to the old one. But my current name doesn’t have an obvious gender flip, so I’d have to come up with an entirely new name again.
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Can you expand on that? Not asking for more personal Info than you want to share but how do people weaponize that? How shitty our our fellow human beings?
I feel a bit out of the loop standing here on my white CIS (is that even the right term?) privilege thinking people are getting better over time because I wouldn’t experience or even notice such things
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Ok thanks. I think I mainly misunderstood the premise
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I can’t pretend to know such fear but it’s horrifying there are people like that
Yeah my name is Clement, so Clementine, like the Walking Dead character. Actually kids in school called me that thinking it was mean… I actually didn’t mind.
Clementine is one beautiful name!
Crap. Now i have to go watch Eternal Sunshine and I really don’t have the emotional energy for that today.
Nope, I don’t have one.
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Good luck with your transition!!!
I’m a woman, my parents already gave me a male name. I never really thought about it until my brother had a son and named him after me.
My (man here) little sister used my unisex middle name as her daughter’s name after me. 🥰
She’s not my only niece, but that will always be special to me.
If you asked me to pick a different name remaining a guy I don’t think I could without a lot of thought.
Not really. Probably just the female version of my name
I have an agendered one but I’m also legit considering changing it.
Reading this made me think of such a gender-neutral name and honesty I’m digging it. Close to my real name, works in multiple languages.
I have given more thought to what I would change my name to if I was trying to hide as a criminal than I have for if I switched genders.
No.
Can’t say I’ve ever thought about it as a cis male. It’s pretty easy to come up with the best sounding derivative though. If you feel that this may be an important choice for you it may benefit you to explore further and perhaps talk to a therapist who has helped others with dysphoria.
It may also help to add that I’ve gone through phases of not liking my name. It’s not a “normal” name and people very often mishear it as something else. Through this I’ve only ever considered other cis male centric names, also derivatives of my actual name.
My name has an obvious feminine version, and I like it enough too.
I’ve personally known only very few women with that name, (it’s not uncommon) but the ones I did were gorgeous, so I’d happily put myself in that club if I woke up different tomorrow.
My middle name is already unisex too, so my initials wouldn’t even change lol.
My name is not gendered, so I’m good to go.
