I think it can be long term a suboptimal strategy.

A good relationship can take many years to grow, and it’s very likely that your best partner later in life is one who was there with you during the grind, who knows what it was like before vs after, and has the perspective.

Ideally, who also worked hard on their own career at the same time.

It’s nice to have someone to support you during that period of your life, who remembers the tough times and you can reminisce later once things are better.

My partner and I have been together for 15 years now, and we both very much nostalgia all the time over when life was tougher, but also simpler.

I think if you get a partner later when all the dust us settled, you’ll never quite be able to capture that same type if relationship and you’ll never get quite as close as you could’ve, cuz they simply just weren’t present for that period of your life.

API is just the term for “the surface of something that’s been exposed to you to interact with”

Libraries, websites, tools, etc all have APIs, it’s just the general term for “this thing has something we can interface with”

A library is a bunch of code someone else wrote.

A package is when you use a tool to bundle up a library to make it easier to distribute to other people, usually adding a version # to it, and adding it to so.e popular package manager network so millions of people can find your package easier.

A framework is a term for a very big cohesive library, with an advanced api, that does a whole bunch of different things that all have stuff in common. Basically a firework is a huge library that provides many many different things to do that all have stuff in common.

Game Engines for example are frameworks.

A library of tools to make a bunch of different website components that all work well together and have stuff in common is a framework.

Etc etc. It’s a bunch of code that doesn’t do anything in it’s own, but provides a bunch of modular pieces you can assemble into something.

Think of a framework like buying a big box of lego. It’s not anything specific yet, but you can assemble all those pieces together to make infinite different things.

and not one dome would have been knocked down

… what?

Can you actually explain what concerns you have, that wouldnt be any more of a concern if you downloaded and installed a binary directly?

At least a shell script you can read in plaintext, a binary can just do who the fuck knows what.

That’s the weird part.

I wouldn’t imagine Ukraine would ever do something so reckless.

But Russia has nothing to gain, peace talks are about to start with heavily favoring Russia

So all I can assume is it could be a third party that doesnt want the peace talk to happen at all, and did this to further destabalize the situation?

I dunno it’s just super fucking weird overall. Why chernybol of all things, no one, not even putin, would want that thing to start popping off… right?

That attack for all intents and purposes should be viewed by the world as no different than a failed nuclear launch, really.

And everyone is too pussy to do anything about it.

Why the hell would Russia even do that?

What’s the actual reasoning behind that? Doesn’t this fuck them over too?

Trudeau is out, we are voting in a new leader shortly

Hopefully they vote someone in who unironically would challenge dipshits to boxing matches

They literally have meetings, and Trump obviously cares about conservatives willing to help him grift being in charge…

So many people are extremely missing the point here

Trump is purposefully threatening Canada to give his canadian conservative buddy Poilievre something to “fight” against, to make him look good

“Wow Poilievre is standing up against Trump, I’m gonna vote for him!”

That’s the game plan, in reality the two dipshits are best buds and can collude together to fuck over both countries extra hard, after conservatives get a majority over here.

It’s a stunt to get conservatives in charge over here “against” Trump, which is so fucking stupid and yet it’s probably gonna work cuz so many people are gonna fall for it.

I don’t think the liberal party has a good play against it, other than if our new liberal leader challenges Trump and musk to a boxing match and literally bears the shit out of them on live television

I unironically think the Lincoln “I’ll fight you let’s go right now” leader who seriously fucks up Musk or Zuckerberg or any of those dipshits on live television would actually win by a landslide here

It’s fuckin stupid but that’s what works apparently…

These trends are pretty consistent anywhere you look em up.

Homicide is quite rare overall, people due to all sorts of shit, amd very rarely is it homicide.

It’s usually heart disease, or cancer, or covid.

And outside diseases, it’s usually accidents at home, at work, or on the road.

And outside accidents (and overdoses), it’s usually suicide far more often than homicide. (You could classify that as disease again though, depression can be extremely lethal)

Only after all of that do you start talking about homicide, which is the very tiny fraction of deaths left over.

Go look at the obituaries evey single week in your local city, then compare it to how many homicides there were.

My city of about 1 million population averages only 35 homicides per year.

Meanwhile thousands of people are dying per year to illness, accidents, etc.

You are extremely out of touch if you think homicide is the largest threat to women, lol.

Cars alone beat homicide like 3:1

I just assumed the fact that black men get charged with worse penalties on average was well known enough and common knowledge I wouldnt have to sit and gather papers on it.

https://academic.oup.com/bjc/article/64/5/1189/7612940

I mean there’s an entulire Wikipedia page with many sources for it, take your pick.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sentencing_disparity

The fact that black men make up a disproportionate amount of perpetrators and victims of violence is also extremely well established, because you know… gangs exist

https://www.statista.com/statistics/251877/murder-victims-in-the-us-by-race-ethnicity-and-gender/

In Canada our Indeginious communities have a similiar trend: https://www150.statcan.gc.ca/t1/tbl1/en/tv.action?pid=3510015601

While simultaneously it’s also pretty well known that gangs trend to being familial in nature. I hope you won’t ask for me to find papers demonstrating how often gang violence tends to be “in family”, I don’t know how easy that will be to find, but it should be pretty common knowledge that gangs typically revolve around family blood ties.

As a result of all three of these facts, it’s extremely easy to see how a considerable chunk of what would be classifiable as male on male domestic violence instead gets classified as non-domestic gang related activity.

Which will make up a non-trivial chunk of that gap you are seeing, very possibly swinging it the opposite direction.

I’d be extremely surprised if men aren’t the actual disproportionate victims of domestic violence once you remove racial/cultural biases out. I expect an enormous amount of domestic violence is categorized as non-domestic.

Literally anyone who has paid attention to the news over the past several years should be starkly aware of how intense these biases play out when it comes to cops knocking on doors of domestic violence events, and how way to often it turns into a “justified homicide”

It should be noted most models of cars have high-vis parts on them, usually on the rear, that work the same way.

Consider the following:

A lot of reports of domestic violence for male on male violence is reported as non domestic instead, which contributes to a portion of the perceived gap.

The gap is likely smaller than you think. Its even distinctly likely men are in reality the victims more often (like every other category of violence), but it just doesn’t get categorized as domestic because sexism.

Especially since a lot of the victims are often black, which even further biases against them for a domestic incident to get escalated to non domestic (carrying heavier sentences)

It’s well known that black men tend to convicted with far heavier sentences than any other demographic for the same crimes.

The victims also are primarily men.

Men vs men violence makes up more of the graph then all other pairings combined

Men are the primary victims and offenders of violence, by an incredibly large margin.

Of the 12,996 murder victims in 2010 for which supplemental data were received, most (77.4 percent) were male.

Men are twice to four times as likely to be the victim of murder

But yeah no, it’s women that for sure are the “disproportionately affected victims”

It’s a lot of bullshit, women are slightly more victims than men, maybe, in specifically domestic violence. And even then the gap is incredibly small.

Meanwhile men are substantially more likely to be the victim in every other category, and those categories dwarf domestic violence by such a huge amount.

But articles will skim over that as a non issue, and will spend paragraphs talking about how women are the real victims here

When the “disproportion” is only 60% vs 40%, that’s a fairly small gap, only a 10% shift.

Enough to be within the realm that it’s more likely to just be a reporting problem to swing the other way.

Meanwhile in reality gay men have at times been disproportionately affected by aids on the scale of hundreds to thousands of times worse than other demographics.

So yeah, no, a 10% shift off bias is not actually terribly huge.

Especially when in the same paragraph they acknowledge a 30% shift bias for men in general, and didn’t remark on that at all.

To call “50% more likely” a huge issue in one sentence and then skim over "300% more likely as not being noteworthy is fucked up

But no one bats an eye at this because that violence is normalized.

The problem is when articles literally phrase it as if the minority portion of the violence is the majority.

When you do that, you now are minimizing a lot of shit and you’ve failed.

Even though men and boys account for the vast majority of homicide victims, women and girls continue to be disproportionately affected by lethal violence in the private sphere," the report said.

“An estimated 80% of all homicide victims in 2023 were men while 20% were women, but lethal violence within the family takes a much higher toll on women than men, with almost 60% of all women who were intentionally killed in 2023 being victims of intimate partner/family member homicide,” it said.

So men and boys are dying way more due to violence overall, but as usual people will do whatever it takes to make it look like women are most affected.

Men are dying an order of magnitude more. As long as media keeps ignoring that and trying to twist the numbers to make it look like women have to worse, then you’ll never actually make real progress.

You have to acknowledge violence as a whole and not pick and choose what violence “counts” for your cause.

You either are against violence or not, so stop minimizing 80% and making it out to be a non issue, and trying to frame the minority of the violence to be the majority.

One vehicle delivering 2 peoples food is better than 2 people driving out to get food, tbh.

Overall delivery drivers substantially reduce traffic.

For more deliverable stuff like packages, 1 delivery truck delivery 40 peoples packages in one trip us so much better than 40 individual households all driving to Walmart or whatever.

I am fine with the majority of traffic just being delivery vehicles and public transit, those are the two actually effective uses for vehicles at the public level.

I’ve been looking for th8s for awhile too.

Not a locally run tool, but a self hosted web app (that I wire up to my self hosted db) that has a web portal I login to, and then can manage my db with a nice slick UI to define tables, relations, etc.

There’s been some I’ve found but they vastly lacked basic features and were clearly in very early beta.

The #1 thing Ive used AI for is commenting my code. It is pretty good at following my format and generating code documentation, based on my existing code.

It’s also really good at helping me think of a good name for something, if there’s a specific word on the tip of my tongue. “Whats the word for when you do the thing with the thingy?” “It sounds like you are looking for (word)”

Also its really good for helping me find the name of specific algorithms for use cases.

“Is there a known algorithm I can look up that can fenangle a dinger?”

“You might be looking for the Ferg Dergeson Flemming algorithm, which is a popular way to fenangle dingers”

Then Ill look it up and it is, indeed, like the best way to fenangle a dinger and I’m like “well holy shit, this is a solved problem turns out, I shoulda known”