That phrase has always had a Buddhist-type quality of acceptance for me, even before I knew what Buddhism was. But I think it is favored by people who fail to recognize the difference between “seeing reality as it is” and “believing that reality can’t be challenged or changed”.

People who champion “brutal honesty” generally seem much more excited about the brutality than the honesty.

I’ve job hopped a medium amount. It’s extremely common. The red flags you’re seeing are most likely indicators of serious problems, and you should trust your intuitions about them. Especially the thing about everyone being overworked jumps out at me. That kind of problem is systemic, and unless the new company leaders are honest about it being a problem and are taking steps to fix it (for example, hiring more people) you won’t be able to fix it as a low level employee and it can burn you out if you try. On the other hand, one month is not a lot of time to get familiar with a new workplace and understand the dynamics. Are there upsides that counterbalance the downsides? Can you find ways to mitigate or improve the situation at your new job? How much power do you feel like you have with your team to change the problems you see, and is this job worth the effort that that will take? Since you’re on a short clock, you won’t be able to get all the information you need to make an informed decision, so this is partly going to come down to your gut, which is scary. And no one on the internet is going to be able to make the decision better than you, for better or for worse.

Something else to consider: counteroffers are sometimes a trap. If your employer knows you are actively looking to leave, they will often begin preparing to replace you on their own, before you can make a move. Deciding whether this is a realistic possibility comes down to how much you trust your manager friend, how much you trust the other powers that be at your old company, and whether or not your old company can resolve the issues that led you to leave in the first place. Because if you go back to your old job and it’s the same old job, you will probably still want to leave at some point, and now your manager knows it.

Good luck. that’s a tight spot, and I hope you navigate it and land somewhere you feel comfortable ❤️

I love this idea. As others have said, a distributed game server would be a really tall order, and AFAIK there’s not really anything already made that does what you’re describing. But you could have a setup where one server hosts the game and syncs the game state with the other servers in the network, and if one server fails the network decides which failover server to connect to, all the clients connect to that server and continue playing on the new host. But it would be a gargantuan task to implement something like that.

The first rule of FUDposting club.

This is true in all cases. The proof is left as an exercise for the student.

Aw, it was really nice seeing that shoutout to Allie Brosh at the end. Both of her books are members of a small collection I call “books I can read when I’m really really fucking sad and they help”. Haven’t seen much of her recently on the internet, glad to see she’s still about ❤️

I think you’re just describing DS9

Really blows my mind that so much ink is spilled over “literally” while “really” gets a pass for doing the same thing really.

Huh. I’ve seen the emote but never knew its history. What a rich tapestry the internet is.

Wait are pogs back in with the youths? Am I cool again?

This is why I still don’t know sed and awk syntax lol. I eventually get the data in the shape I need and then move on, and never imprint how they actually work. Still feel like a script kiddie every time I use them (so once every few years).

it’s an extra hurdle, but it’s far from a guaranteed barrier. There’s a whole class of exploits called container escapes (or hypervisor escapes if you’re dealing with old-school VMs) that specifically focus on escalating an attack from a compromised container into whatever machine is hosting the container.

I’m glad it’s not just me lol every so often I’ll think “I haven’t done a python project in a while I’ll try FastAPI” or something and I have so many issues just getting the env set up.

A practical addendum to that last point: I am eternally grateful that I am too old to have had to deal with the current landscape of app-based dating, so I am definitely commenting on something out of my experience, but I would advise trying to meet people in real life and make non-romantic friends, rather than “trying to date”. Book clubs, Ultimate frisbee leagues, activism groups, etc. I met my partner doing community theater. I think if you want to find someone you can be friends with as well as partners, you have to try being just friends first. And it doesn’t always progress beyond that, and sometimes that sucks like a bastard. But I still think it’s better than the alternative methods I’ve seen.

Who’s going to be doing this railroading? It’s going to be up to you and whoever you decide to have a relationship with to decide what your roles in the relationship will be. When I started getting serious with my partner (now cohabitating over a decade and going strong), we both thought we were cishet little ex-christians. But we were buddies from the start, and that hasn’t changed even when we started to question our gender identities. For all I know, it may have been the fact that we were in a stable, loving relationship for the first time in both our lives that made it safe enough to start exploring that aspect of ourselves. I know for us it took (is taking…) a while. I loved them when they thought they were a woman, I love them now as their NB self, and if they discover more about their gender identity I’ll love them then. We’re still, and will hopefully always be, partners and best buds.

So if you want to try being in a relationship with a girl, find a girl you like, and love her.

I wouldn’t say it was a number one favorite, but I feel like the internet isn’t the same without timecube.com

TW: conspiracy nonsense, racism, crimes against grammar https://web.archive.org/web/20050829015921/http://www.timecube.com/

Sharecropping is optimistic. They’re laying the groundwork to have a larger prison population that the government can rent out to the landowners.

Can hardly believe that video is almost old enough to vote 🧓

Haven’t thought about it in years but seeing the tracert command snapped me right back to it lol.

For anyone interested in a field trip to the internet museum: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SXmv8quf_xM

It’s a classic ❤️