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  • It’s a funny thing, once the whole “boundaries” thing starts to click it sort of becomes addicting as you slowly realize “oh, I can say no to things I don’t like” or “I can ask for the things I wish I had”.

    Eventually that leads to the secure attachment style (still working on this one myself). But since this began to “click” I have made 3 excellent friends that I don’t feel like I need to perform around and it’s wild to me.

    Are you autistic/neurodivergent by chance? I am, and I read a book called “Unmasking Autism” by Devon Price, PhD and it helped a lot with this for me. Not sure if it would mean anything to people who aren’t though.



  • I recommend mindfulness training if you can. There’s a big difference between:

    • “I’m a fuckup”
    • “I feel like a fuckup”
    • “I notice I feel like a fuckup”
    • “I see that I wanted to label myself as a fuckup”

    Brains and bodies will automatically attract to higher levels of comfort or peace, so you can start to see the trends in your mental health, it will literally pull you toward fixing it. It may not be a complete fix by itself, but you’ll be surprised how much it will do for you.

    You are not your illness. Would you feel empathy for a friend with anxiety? Likely yes. If you give them that grace, why not yourself too?

    I hope/am glad if this stuff helps.




  • Idk if this is valuable to you but it was to me so I’ll take a shot. This is about social anxiety but can apply to other types as well imo.

    I learned that my social anxiety was because I would not stick up for myself. Anxiety and “fight or flight” are physiologically the same thing, so my anxiety was my body freaking out that I may be abused in conversation with no way to defend myself.

    I spent years learning healthy boundaries and effective ways to handle conflict and confrontation and in my mid 30s I finally feel like I’m crawling out of the hole.

    It’s a little annoying the thing I was anxious about and avoiding (conflict, embarrassment, making a scene if necessary) was actually the thing keeping me anxious in the first place but I’m glad I’m back on the climb out now.

    I wish you luck in your journey, stranger.









  • Sadly almost all these comments are wrong. I work in a computer shop and we see the scam you’re talking about all the time. It happened because you unknowingly opened an ad. So you clicked on a button that looked legitimate like “download” or “next” or whatever, and that pops up full screen. The fix is a good ad blocker like ublock origin. Google’s being a piece of shit right now about ad blockers so I recommend something Firefox-based for effective ad blocking.


  • I work in a PC repair shop and I run my tool stick on this way. By the way, you can just put a folder in your Ventoy and store non-iso files so you can have portable apps and so on.

    • Acronis (can clone to reduced size drives unlike clonezilla which can only clone to equal or bigger)
    • MemTest86 & MemTest86+ (+ is the FOSS one. Recommend both because sometimes one won’t work)
    • Don’t forget that you can put other stuff in a Ventoy, not just .isos. I have shitlods of utilities in a folder beside all the .isos.
    • Tons more but I just woke up for work. I will make this list much longer when I get there of I can remember to

    Edit: ADHD did ADHD things. Here’s some more stuff. A lot of it is Windows-centric because that’s what we specialize in. ISOs:

    • PC Unlocker (Windows password remover, paid)
    • Gandalf’s Windows Preboot (similar to Hirans, but modern. Paid.)

    Utilities:

    • CrystalDiskInfo (SMART checks and more on SSDs)
    • CrystalDiskMark (SSD benchmark)
    • FastCopy (Windows copy utility. Free)
    • HDTunePro (v5.00 specifically. After this, license binds to a single machine. HDD SMART checks, benchmark, secure erase, sector scans, and more.)
    • OCCT (CPU, GPU, Memory, PSU, and other checks and stress tests. Top-tier tool.)
    • F6 Drivers (drivers for NVMe detection on some laptops)
    • Spacesniffer (visual representation of disk utilization. Similar to WinDirStat, but looks nicer/runs quicker imo. Free.)