I think most people are kind of bad with money, and I think that scales with income.

I think a lot about some old coworkers (six figure salary). We all wanted to go out for a party after work. A bunch of then paid like $80 for a car. I paid $3 for a subway ride. Got there at the same time.

Maybe that’s not so much “bad at money” exactly as have incomprehensible to me values.

I (cis man) always fully close the toilet when it’s not in use. Never would occur to me to do otherwise.

Some of my women friends leave the seat down lid open, but then their cats drink out of the toilet.

Excellent. I love walking places. I’d ride a bike more but it’s just not safe.

Walking around park slope is so much more fun than driving. And then I stop in to shops because it’s easy, and I don’t have to worry about parking.

I make a list between shopping of stuff I realize I should get (eg: peanut butter). When I go, I sometimes just grab stuff that’s cheap or appealing.

I also live like 5 minutes away on foot from several grocery stores, so it’s not a big deal to go.

Maybe I should check out their grocery options. I’ve mostly been using Too Good to Go for like a pizza @ $4.

I wonder if some screen time is worse than others. YouTube slop is probably really bad, but an ebook maybe less bad?

NYC is one of the few places in the USA where you can mostly just get on a train or bus and go. It’s pretty great. There’s room for improvement - some lines are better than others, and off peak you can wait half an hour if you just miss it. But mostly it just works

It kind of bothers me that people use “introvert” to mean like “crippling social anxiety and agoraphobia”.

Maybe it’s just online spaces accumulate more people who identify with those disorders, and “introvert” sounds nicer .

Tabletop RPGs are a good and cost effective hobby. You can play DND with the free “SRD” rules posted online, but you won’t get the fancy pictures and all the extras.

There are other games like it that are even cheaper. My personal favorite is Fate. Free rules, only needs four six sided dice.

The main problem is finding a good group to play with. DND is mega popular so if you’re just looking for social, it’s a good starting point. If you’re not into fantasy, you can branch off into other games later.

In the US I think it varies a lot from town to town and teacher to teacher.

I had a history teacher in like 10th grade (age ~15). He spent the first bulk of a lesson one day telling us stuff. Everyone was wrapped up in what a good story this was about whatever. Then, in the end of the class he was like “everything I just told you is bullshit. It’s alterations, omissions, and lies to make the story sound better for the victors.”

I don’t remember what the actual subject was, but it was a good lesson in not blindly accepting what a charismatic guy in a suit tells you.

Depending on how the html is structured, you might be able to use adblock or tamper monkey to filter it out (in a browser. Apps are less supportive of this)

Many times the people who would make the best decisions are not authorized to make decisions.

Should we go into the office every day? Well the workers say no, objective productivity measurements say no, the environment says no, but some insipid sack of shit feels like it’s better.

Should we spend twenty minutes improving this process? No, some higher up who doesn’t understand software development decided that we don’t do it that way. Keep doing it manually.

Should we compensate people well enough so they don’t leave after a year or two? No, pay the absolute minimum and keep hiring entry level people. Saving so much on labor costs!

I’d rather have health than maybe marginally better cooking experiences

the truth is that what we did didn’t affect them as much as we expected, and most people don’t care as well :(

Most people don’t really care about anything. They won’t put up with a little inconvenience. Worse than toddlers.

I found feeld to be really disappointing. As a man who doesn’t date men, it was pretty bad.

I’d get about one match every 3 months. I didn’t pay for it, so that might be a factor. But I think the big factor is there are a lot of men, and the algorithm doesn’t show me to that many people.

Of the matches I did get, about 80% were instant duds. Either no reply at all, or a bad one. I remember this one woman whose handle was like “boobz”. After like three attempts to start a conversation about normal topics (books, music, the city) I asked something tepid about her boobs. Something like if she liked when people touched them. She got mad. “How dare you sexualize this conversation” or something like that. I was just like, I tried other gambits and you didn’t even half ass a reply, and you have it in your name and profile picture. What do you want? I didn’t say that to her. I just unmatched. But like come on.

The next ten percent I’d ask a normal polite question like “so what music do you like seeing live?” and they’d reply sexually. Like, “oh daddy what music should I listen to?” Or “I just want to hear the rhythm of you slapping my ass”. Okay. Strange but not the worst.

And the last ten percent were just normal people behaving normally. I had some nice dates and I’m still friend with one. Incidentally all of them said they’d just installed the app and hadn’t been on it long.

So yeah. Feeld kind of sucks.

Used hinge, tinder, okcupid, and maybe a couple others. I’m a guy who doesn’t date men, 30s, in a large urban area, average looks and fitness.

I found I could get about a date a week if I put in effort. Most people aren’t putting in effort. Most of your effort is going to go into the void. You just have to accept that most people kind of suck and aren’t going to respond. But just reading their profile and sending a message like a normal person puts you well above average.

Many people seem to just half ass it and I don’t understand why. Like, their profile says they love NK Jemisen. You write that you love her books and ask if they read her latest. They write back with “no”, and of message, no follow up. Like how do you expect that to work out favorably? If you don’t have time, don’t respond. If you’re not interested, unmatch. A dead end reply just wastes everyone’s time.

The apps themselves are not focused on good outcomes. They want money. That doesn’t always mean giving you the best match right away. But sometimes it works out anyway.

I just recommend checking things from the live boot environment. I found out once that some things didn’t work (HDMI , Ethernet, Wi-Fi) only after installing, and it was a hassle. Ended up switching to a different distro that did work out of the box.

While we don’t all need to become total vegans, reducing the number of domesticated animals would have a significantly positive impact on both the environment and the quality of those animals’ lives.

This is where I’m at. Half-assed vegetarian. I don’t buy meat but if someone serves it at a dinner I don’t refuse to eat. Baby steps. It’s making progress without the shock of an abrupt change all at once.

The worst is when people don’t know how the system works, and then won’t listen to answers

Like I was at a job and product was going on about “our system has no concept of project owner. We have all these projects but there’s nothing unifying them under a single owner. We need to build this!”

I was like “… what? That’s just not true. There’s a “company” object that does that. It’s got a foreign key with project in the database. I guess it’s a weird name but it’s there”

It took several back and forths over multiple meetings. They eventually got on the same page and I saved us doing a whole useless project, but they did insist I rename it to “account” in the database and code. I would’ve rather left it because that could’ve been dicey, but alas. (The rename did go out fine, but I had to go looking for every reference.)

I didn’t say anything about YouTube. Why would you think I have a more favorable opinion of YouTube?