Aren’t dark parking lots a way bigger cliche regarding assaults?

Of course we do. That’s my point. It’s not a Reddit problem, it’s a human problem.

I understand the point being made, but don’t knock gruel.

They are all available on every instance. It’s not different than having five communities for the same subject on Reddit. It’s worse here right now because so few communities have managed to “clear their orbit” yet, but it will get better.

But, that’s not relevant to communities. You can kill a community by technical means, but technical means cannot create one; it’s necessary but not sufficient, and not even the hard part.

Most people are still on fucking FACEBOOK. They are willing to put up with almost unlimited bullshittery for the sake of their sense of community. Building a better mousetrap won’t work, and building a vaguely equivalent mousetrap won’t even move the needle.

Lemmy is Reddit 10 years ago

I mean it’s not THAT good, but it’s sure better than Reddit today.

“Reddit is awful. How do we move that here?”

Most people don’t change unless they have to, and rarely even then. You’d have to make it so that they can’t visit Reddit anymore.

Even on reddit itself, you can’t get people to move from a sick community with hostile moderation to the preferred community. /r/Canada got taken over by /r/metacanada what feels like decades ago, and they turned it into a post modern bigoted classist hellhole, but it still ranks far above the “real” Canadian sub /r/OnGaurdForThee.

Maybe better not to compete with existing communities. Develop some anchor communities on Lemmy that are doing their own thing on topics that aren’t well served on Reddit.

…therefor no one ever has?

Far, far more likely to actually die.

Jesus you people are so insecure. And I have relevant childhood trauma. Work on your shit.

Nothing says he can’t just go home early, Mr Moneybags won’t mind if there is an extra fee.

If you view spending time with your son in the Maldives as a chore getting foisted off on you, then yes, you certainly should not go. Or really even have a lot of contact with any of them.

This isn’t FOR the wife. It’s FOR the child. The wife doesn’t get anything out of this. It isn’t rewarding her. Do you think SHE wants the ex there?! This is just broken thinking. It’s not anyone’s job to teach the wife “the right lessons” or make sure she doesn’t get rewarded for the wrong thing. I think you are covering for more primitive motivations.

Good advice. I have cultivated a positive relationship with my metamour and it makes a big difference.

I’m opposed to human reproduction. But maybe I adopted. I’d go if I thought I could cope emotionally. I feel like a lot of things would be better after such an experience, it could be genuinely positive for you and your child. Get two rooms, have the kid stay with you. But maybe just for a week. Three weeks, seriously? Get unnecessary room service every day.

It helps prevent cops from having you sectioned for laughs.

When I go running on country roads in spandex and sandals, the hicks in the trucks go by real friggin’ slowly. Like, aggressively slowly.

Not everything. But you might have pathological difficulty grasping irony.

No one has ever used GDP as a metric for “societal health.”