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    1. Suffer through working life
    2. Retire, downsize, go see the world without having to convince a gf/partner

    Nothing wrong with disliking dating, it’s a screwy social ritual intended to use a short series of interactions to determine if this is a person you could trust and genuinely like enough to share everything - including tough mornings - and compromise with for the next fifty years.

    Works for some folks. Doesn’t work for others. I’m happily married, took a couple false starts and youthful indiscretions to get here - as well as the magic of the internet and some long discussions about relationships/commitment/poly/nonstandard stuff.

    Works for us, maybe not for most.








  • I’ve never heard them be interchangeable. Grew up in the NE US, PA, NY, FL, and MA.

    I’ve spent most of the last twenty years in the Midwest, and can’t think of a single example.

    The outlier would be very, very careful instructions - likely written - organized in an if/then fashion which is a totally different use case:

    • Where the coffee machine is empty and the old filter abd grounds have been removed…
    • Where the coffee machine is empty but the used filter and grounds are still present… (add step to deal with that case)
    • Where the moron before you forgot to turn off the burner after emptying the carafe…

    “Since” wouldn’t fit, at least without changing the instructions after the ellipsis.

    And of course the classic example: “since you are up, get me a beer…” also doesn’t really work. (Apologies to some long irrelevant redneck comedian for ripping that off to make a point).

    I’m trying in my head to make it fit in both casual and formal conversation, and it just won’t as far as I can tell.

    Would love a counterfactual where both work!



  • Right there with you on “just works,” as well as the simple fact that the config snippets you need are readily available - either in the repo of whatever you’re putting behind the proxy, or elsewhere on the internet.

    I consistently keep in mind that it’s ultimately an RU product, of course. But since it’s open source and changes relatively infrequently, that’s mitigated to a large degree from where I sit.

    Nothing against Caddy, though Apache gets heavy quickly from a maintenance standpoint, IMHO. But nginx has been my go to for many, many years per the above. It drops into oddball environments without having to rip and tear existing systems out by the roots, and it doesn’t care what’s behind it.

    Ages ago, I had a Tomcat app that happened to be supported indirectly by an embedded Jetty (?) app that didn’t properly support SSL certs in a sane way on its own.

    That was just fine to nginx and certbot, the little-but-important Jetty app just lived off to the side and functionally didn’t matter because with nginx and certbot, nothing else gave a crap - including the browser clients and the arcane build system that depended on that random Jetty app.



  • You and me both.

    Not too many years after that nightmare, I was perfectly capable of enjoying thru-hiking, carrrying exactly same weight anyone else would have been, moving at same speed on rough terrain, etc. Still couldn’t run a mile - or much shorter distances - in my wildest dreams. Didn’t matter, I was in exactly the shape I wanted to be in, for the things I cared about.

    Can’t do it anymore, my body widely conspired against me in various ways, but glad I was capable of it and have the memories. If I had been able to run a mile, but not hike any distance with weight, I’d be alot less happy about what I had achieved at that point.







  • Can you even do that anymore?

    I’m mid-forties, and that was what you did circa 99, and I was taught how to do it.

    But I can’t imagine a manager today wanting to deal with paper resume and walk-in application.

    (Also, if I hand you my resume, it means I’m going to skip the job history fields on the application. I hope manager can read and critically think enough to notice the resume and get that concept. Otherwise, I don’t want to work for you.