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  • I’m not saying there aren’t bad therapists. No matter what the field is, there are people who do it poorly, and it is possible that you just happened to get a bad one every single time, but it’s also possible, and much more likely that you got in your own way.

    Our minds are really good at protecting themselves from uncomfortable thoughts. Maybe too good. We block out memories that hurt too much, and we convince ourselves that we are right just because being wrong would create too much inner turmoil.

    My brother is schizoaffective. He hears things that don’t exist. On multiple occasions, I have talked to him about things that he thinks occurred, and even though nobody else in the room could hear the angry man outside yelling insults directed at him, he refuses to believe it didn’t happen. He’s just convinced that his hearing is much better than ours.

    He would complain that his therapist was so obsessed with “trying to convince him that he’s crazy” and that they never tried to solve what HE thought was the problem. So he would stop going, stop taking his meds, and next thing we know, he’s driven halfway across the country because he was trying to escape the people who are out to get him.

    It really seems like nobody should know us better than ourselves, but usually, other people can see all the things that we are afraid to admit to ourselves.

    If every psychiatrist/therapist is telling you that X is the problem you should work on, then maybe you should stop looking at what YOU think it is and give the professionals a chance. If that makes you uncomfortable, that’s a REALLY good sign that you might actually be making progress and not just unconsciously dancing around the real issue.