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Cake day: November 7th, 2025

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  • This is unsolicited advice so feel free to ignore, especially if it sounds “twee.”

    What i think helps is:
    • having a positive mindset, because it’s almost like people can sense when you are yearning to get into a relationship
    • in the same vein, treat potential mates as potential good friends. Your first few meetings with them is like their “informal interviews for being a friend.” You can invite them on a date (or just to do something together as friends)1 which is the final interview, which lets them get the higher position in your social circle.
    • I don’t say that to complicate what should already be simple; firstly, it’s getting not simple in this day age, because people don’t know what to do with all the dating apps and SM. Secondly, the message is just create a more relaxed low pressure atmosphere for them
    • to revisit the first point - this is just something many people say, and i have experienced in my own life: stop seeking a partner and one will stumble into your life. This might be why people already committed relationships get a lot of attention; they seem self satisfied.

    I also just want to say that more people are in your position than you think ❤️. Zoomed are the most sexless and relationship generation, after all.






  • Dating apps make me SICK. They should be wiped out. All of us who oppose them should form our own microstate; we’re anti AI, anti dating apps, I’m sure there’s a lot more common ground than that.

    Even though i don’t think I believe in “soulmates” I’m scared that the suitors best suited for me are going to never meet me because women my age seem afraid of relationships that aren’t struck up via dating app.

    Someone showed interest in me then gave me the cold shoulder because apparently not having social media means I’m not “on the dating market”? I’m worried it will happen again ad infinitum, basically.