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Cake day: November 5th, 2023

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  • She may have insecurities, unsure of how her body looks or smells, or whether or not she’s “normal” down there. Fear of judgement can be a huge mood killer.When I was growing up I was never told there was anything wrong with me, but discussion of bodies was rather taboo. It took MANY years before I was comfortable with myself. Also, if she’s ever experienced any trauma, that could make her less comfortable as well.

    Are you guys able to have discussions about intimate matters? What turns you on, what kinds of touch, how and where? She may or may not know why she’s not comfortable with it, but communication is so important for the health of the relationship. Patience, kindness, and to be supportive and non-judgemental of each other goes far with intimate matters.


  • Not sure of the ages of your children, but as a 52yo who grew up in the States, I averaged 2-3 hours of homework a night in grade school. They’d tell us “oh, it’s only about 15-20 minutes per class” which doesn’t sound terrible, except that it was more like 20-30 minutes of work x 4-6 classes. By 7th grade I burned out and realized that the world didn’t end if I started skipping homework, and my test grades remained about the same. I just had to live with the stifling anxiety over getting in trouble for not getting my homework done.

    Thankfully by the time my kids came along schools started pulling back on the volumes of unnecessary homework. I also never pressured them to get every assignment done, but instead asked them if they understood what they were doing. As adults having completed further educational programs, they did just fine. I’m glad that as time goes on, kids are getting more of a chance to be kids.





  • Duranie@literature.cafeto196@lemmy.blahaj.zonerule
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    7 months ago

    I’m in a southern Chicago suburb. Yesterday it was over 70 degrees, last night we had hail and tornadoes, then I wake up to snow flurries. There are trees and plants doing things they shouldn’t for weeks and I suspect my spring allergies are already starting.

    While part of me is embracing the “milder” days, it’s also a bit unnerving.