Why do the resources for wives not work for you? Can’t you just take the advice and switch the genders? My spouse and I are similar. A lot of the traditional gender roles are switched, so i just take the advice for the other gender and use it for our situation.
This is a big one people don’t acknowledge. I think a big part of it is that we have also moved away from church (not a bad thing!)
When people talk about religious people having more kids, it’s not just quiverfull explanations! It’s that church people accept being around kids at social events. We (non church people) lost all of our childless friends within about two years of having a kid. The lifestyles were just incompatible and they weren’t ready to transition to daytime barbecues at the park. My church going sister? Kids are welcome at almost all of her social events, and she even attends women’s groups that have free childcare.
Obviously you can build that kind of community outside of church, but it’s not easy without the existing culture and infrastructure.
The 25 year olds I know aren’t choosing between kids and travel, they’re choosing between kids and groceries… rent is too high to make it on one income, even for a lot of my college educated peers.
It’s only convenient if you have access to a fax machine, which the majority of us don’t
Nuts? Beef jerky? Those almonds covered with flavored salt (salt n vinegar, Sriracha, pickle, etc), licorice. Bitter dark chocolate?
Really? I’d rather my mom get scammed than murdered, but that’s just me
Below a certain threshold, it is a big deciding factor. Doesn’t matter your outlook if you can’t afford to go to the doctor, or eat healthy foods.
Everyone returns to their baseline happiness 3 months after something big happens, but when you’re poor, hard things happen more often than every three months.
This is a double edged sword. You shouldn’t put a ton of effort into your dating self if you’re not prepared to keep that up for the rest of your life, otherwise you’re just screwing your spouse. I’m so so glad I put very little effort into masking/ lying about who I am when I dated my spouse. I was just honest. I hate cooking. I’m hard to get ahold of/ don’t answer messages quickly. I don’t want to own a dog. Now that we’re 7 years in, I don’t have to let him down by saying a dog is too much housekeeping for me. I told him that on date 2. He on the other hand definitely presented his best foot, which was disappointing 5 years in when he could no longer keep it up. He’s messy, he apparently really wants a dog, and he also hates cooking, none of which i knew until long after we married.
I’m totally burnt out after only a week and a half and I still have 9 weeks to go. My sister and mom are coming over tomorrow to help me meal prep though! So hopefully that makes everything a bit easier. Thank you for checking in on me
I’ve been crying all week. I’m 31 weeks pregnant and just diagnosed with gestational diabetes. It’s been a really hard week being bumped up to a high risk pregnancy. I’m so tired, and scared, and now i am on an exhausting eating schedule and plus, no little treats, ever. So many doctors appointments that I am attending alone when my brain is so slow.
Right, but the idea is that most people under 18 haven’t already started smoking because it’s illegal and inconvenient. So you just keep that ball rolling for anyone who hasn’t started.
Because people on video chat (or often on the phone in general) are usually not displaying good situational awareness.
Yeah, because people are fine to face sideways in an elevator, toward the center, I’d say much more likely the more people enter, especially if you’re occupying a front corner.
Plus, if you’re last in, it’s not uncommon to face backward if it’s tight. It’s more polite than jostling to turn around, so maybe it’s best to face the center?
I know someone who was in an escalator accident. The issue is that if you trip, your hair can get caught in it and if you don’t resolve it by the top it rips the hair from your scalp. Idk if modern ones have mechanisms to prevent this, but i know of a gnarly accident from the 80s or 90s. Makes me stressed every time I ride one. I almost always stand still, with one foot on the stair above and a hand on the railing to maximize stability.
Can also happen with a loose shoelace but then you just slip your foot out of the shoe so not so bloody.
I mean just ask people who have been socially rejected/ isolated for breaking those rules. There’s definitely a threat
I try to review everything positive or negative because I rely on reviews. I’ve been banned from reviewing, and I pay for prime. Wtf. They say I’ve done suspicious activity or violated review terms, but won’t let me see previous reviews, and won’t let me appeal. Bull crap.
The only thing I can think i did is, do you know you’re not allowed to include in the review anything about shipping or packaging? You’re only allowed to review the product itself. So if you let others know your item came broken due to poor packaging, that’s a violation of terms. I don’t even remember doing that, but it’s the only rule I can imagine myself breaking!
This is a crazy take. My toddler is absolutely more work than any other job I’ve ever worked and I’ve done office work, physical labor, heck even childcare! If you give two shits about your kid, and follow modern childcare standards, childcare is a very taxing job. If you’re a crappy parent who just lets the kid eat fruit snacks and watch TV maybe it’s easier than whatever job the other parent has, but my husband works blue collar and we both agree that often my job is more taxing. He absolutely picks up 50% or more of the work when he comes home, and on weekends. When he burns out he gets a break, and when I burn out I get a break. We’re actually a team.
I want sex more than he does because I’m well taken care of, and he’s equally exhausted from helping. Literally cannot imagine saying no thanks if sex is on the table cause also, when a man is generous and equitable with his labor in life, that also spills over to how generous and equitable he is in bed.
The number one way (more effective than medication) to increase a woman’s libido is an extra hour of sleep. It’s truly no wonder that getting negative hours of sleep for a literal year at least kills libido.
I’m pregnant and the insomnia is killing me. 4 or 5 hours a night, usually. And the poor sleep will only continue when the child is born. Everyone’s talking about how men need to help more with chores and all that’s true and good that you need division of labor, but even if you’re good at division, the sleep loss with children is inevitable.
I mean it’s obviously hyperbole, but as a pregnant woman with a toddler, I’d be absolutely livid to learn my husband was taking hours long coffee breaks while leaving the shared work of child rearing (specifically newborn care) to me alone.
Sleep deprivation will absolutely make you a crazy person, and this dude is just using this torture tactic on her out of laziness and selfishness.
I think of trashy as the opposite end of the spectrum from classy.
Respecting others privacy and being gracious when someone is embarrassed? Classy. Arguing in front of others or loudly reprimanding someone in public? Trashy.
Dressed appropriately for the venue and audience? Classy. Booty shorts and flip flops in an office space? Trashy.
Being on time and considerate in your manner of arrival? Classy Being late and disruptive? Trashy.
You don’t have to be rich to be classy, just considerate. In the same way, people of means can be trashy if they’re inconsiderate of others.
I think to me, the ultimate trashy move is to pee in public.