Trying my hardest to be civil in this uncivilised world.

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Cake day: April 26th, 2025

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  • If you’re in the middle of nowhere, with your small loving tribe, and don’t know much about whatever ongoing genocide and needless destruction, or about capitalism and the depraved, Diddy-level hedonism, you might sleep better at night than those who do but also feel powerless to change it. What about having terminal cancer? Wouldn’t it be better to just live your last days in happy ignorance? Information is a double-edged sword, basically, and when you know A, you hate A and you also ‘know’/feel unable to change A, it’s just poison.



  • The best way, IME, is to know exactly in which ways these people are mistaken so you can ask the right questions until they’re eventually left with untenable conclusions/information that doesn’t fit reality. And it definitely helps if you state at all times that you’re worried about the person, that you’re not doing this because someone’s paying you or for the fun of it but out of concern, that you could be chilling or doing anything else but you’re here hoping you can get through to them, etc etc. But even then, at any moment they can just have a small ‘frustration aneurysm’ and leave the path of logic behind… In the end, we can’t ‘force’ people to believe in what we believe in, regardless of how much sense it makes and/or how useful it would be for them; either we’re open and clear minded enough to be reasonable or we’re not. 🤷








  • What is this ‘society’ nonsense? You can express your desires and feelings without having to explode, that’s the solution. And when you eventually do, because you’re human and mistakes will happen, apologise profusely and understand “the work” is not yet done. Also whatever you propose is not only a denial of your own humanity, in vain and for your own detriment (and immature too, which is not a good look!), but also the kind of things dudes try before they shoot up churches and festivals.

    You are human, after all, a social animal. You’re gonna have to open up as calmly as you can when the situation calls for it, instead of not saying anything because you don’t feel brave enough to be vulnerable (maybe you feel like the people around you will only misunderstand you and make it worse?), so resentment doesn’t add up in the background and you don’t end up exploding. And I’m not just preaching here, I’m speaking from experience!