Hi! I’m currently in a straight relationship and have always considered myself extra straight (guys are just not attractive).
However, a very long time ago, I was possibly sexually assaulted by a man (drugged, hung out in his room). I say possibly because I wanted him in that moment, and we tried to fuck each other but had issues getting it up (too many drugs I guess).
I’ve been fantasizing about it on and off ever since. The only person I’ve ever told was my therapist recently. He suggested I be open and avoid shaming myself (so maybe that’s part of this post). Something about being inside someone’s ass while they cum all over themselves, or someone inside me while I cum, is just very arousing.
I know I need to come out to my partner. First, though, I’d like to have a plan to deal with this fantasy. Are there healthy ways to explore this possible facet of my sexuality without, ya know, cheating?
I’m bi, in an open relationship with a woman. Opening our relationship was the result of a long process, with a lot of communication.
We want to grow old together. And I don’t want to take the risk of falling in love with someone else, so I looked for something purely sexual, with no feelings or bonds. The solution for me is gay saunas.
They are safe places. In my country, gays have been ambushed after a fake date on an Grindr-like apps.
Guys are explicitly here to have sex, without useless talking. The body language is sufficient and pretty obvious.
Everyone respects consent of their partners (in your situation, you may want to stop everything when things start).
Guys are clean (there are showers), there’s free condoms, lub, and so forth.