I personally would want people who I know and love while I am alive to forget me and move on with their lives after my death.
It’s like I would be happier in whatever is in the after life to see the people who I cared about happy with their lives, instead of getting sad whenever they remember me or worse yet, remembering me on yearly basis after I am gone.
I genuinely find it very illogical and selfish for people to want everyone to never forget them long after they are gone, especially due to the pain that come with memories.
That is why I am curious about the reason.
Personally, I don’t want to be remembered, except in the context of a few stories. I’m more worried about the ephemeral nature of information in general and the ability of people to manipulate our perception of the past. Imagine if you were well “remembered,” but someone just made everything up. That’s terrifying to me. It is better to be forgotten than misrepresented, IMO.