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  • I keep joining discord rooms because I just want to search for something specific real quick… I don’t want to dig up my real account or join, I just want to take a peek inside and dig up the answer to my question

    Almost every time I sign up with a username and get just enough time to start looking for what I need before it decides to kick me out for “suspicious activity”

    At this point I just search the project name when it happens… I’m usually there to evaluate a project, and if that’s not enough I just drop it



  • This is the answer. Blocking them does nothing to them, banning them lets them feel like the victim and let’s them do mental gymnastics to learn the wrong lesson

    No, we live with these people. We’re connected to them in many ways, and cutting this one link to them is just ignoring them until they do something we can’t ignore

    We don’t need to make them quit - we need to make them run away. They need to feel the community rise up against them. They need to feel mocked and hated for their words. They need to feel anxiety before they say hateful things - online and IRL

    They need to learn. And when they crawl back, censoring themselves and making an effort for the sake of acceptance, we need to be kind and show them the road back. Eventually they’ll understand, or at least they’ll understand how to act

    We need to fix their behavior, and this is a constructive and morally justified way to let out all your frustration and anger



  • theneverfox@pawb.socialto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneADHD rule
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    19 days ago

    Just started taking magnesium glycinate, and it’s only been a few days but I must’ve had a bad magnesium deficiency.

    The last few months my meds have barely helped, I’ve been tired and unmotivated, and already I’m waking up earlier and focusing better - it was a night and day difference

    It might be worth getting bloodwork done - certain deficiencies mirror many symptoms of ADHD. And if you have ADHD and a deficiency, meds alone aren’t going to help nearly as much

    Or you could just try magnesium glycinate if you struggle to set up appointments (I know I do), apparently most Americans don’t get enough magnesium. The other forms of magnesium also work as laxatives, so I’d specifically go for that. Vitamin B is another one that can cause similar symptoms, I think zinc as well, but magnesium seems to have been my issue and wasn’t on my radar until my neighbor mentioned it



  • theneverfox@pawb.socialto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneCenterists
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    29 days ago

    That’s my point - you’re cutting them off from negative feedback in a very low risk setting. They still vote. They come to Thanksgiving. They work and shop around you. And most people don’t quit social media after getting a ban - they find somewhere more hospitable. They go soothe each other by turning bigotry into a sense of belonging. Then, having normalized saying horrible things, it comes out elsewhere

    The better outcome is that a healthy community circles around them and calls them an asshole, and hopefully a few people explain why they’re being an asshole

    Yes, feelings can be hurt, but this is a best case scenario even on that front - when someone says something terrible to you and the community leaps to your defense, it hurts a lot less. I’d go so far as to call it empowering

    Some people need safe spaces, because they’ve been traumatized. Safe spaces should exist for people to heal - but they should be limited and small corners.

    Humans need to mix. They naturally adjust to social norms - I think the last decade has shown us that bigots who hold their tongue are much better than ones convinced it’s socially acceptable to say horrible things

    Moderation has a place, but it should be dedicated only to keeping the community healthy - a healthy community is a community that can police itself. Spammers have no place in a healthy community, because they exploit the medium of communication. Doxing is generally the same. Continuous personal attackers eventually prove they deserve exile from the community. A community under attack from outsiders might need a more decisive hand to return to health

    But a healthy community should have dissidents. Modern communities are just little shards of society as a whole - if you’re not spreading social norms you’re just an echo chamber. You have to spread that health outwards, because we’re all connected at the end of the day - the people we ban don’t go away, we deny them the pressure to rehabilitate when we decide to keep them out of our online platforms. They’re still there in the real world


  • theneverfox@pawb.socialto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneCenterists
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    30 days ago

    This is such a braindead take. Humanity is networked. You can cut a link, but you can’t disconnect someone from yourself unless you yeet them out of existence

    Drive them into bigot echo chambers and someone has to deal with them thinking everyone is secretly as bigoted as them

    Respond in kind - if they’re rational, defeat them with reason. If they’re a dumbfuck, quote then and mock how stupid their words are. If they’re a troll, counter troll them

    And when they feel bad for saying bad things, offer an olive branch. Highlight the path back to being a respectable person

    You don’t need to be equipped to do it all - I’m personally good at counter trolling and reaching out to those already verbally beaten down

    We all have to live with these people - we all have a have a responsibility to do our part. Give them the social rejection they deserve when they say unacceptable things - people who don’t learn from logic learn emotionally, so make them feel bad. It’s ok to attack those attacking others unfairly - just always leave a path back to acceptance

    Kill them or rehabilitate them - those are the only options that fix the problem


  • Why do you think C is the one true language? It’s a tool.

    There’s a single very simple answer to “what tool should I use?”. Use the best tool for the job

    The job is the objective - what are you trying to accomplish? What are your priorities? What compromise is best between time, cost, and quality? What are your abilities? What’s in your toolbox right now, and what could you obtain within the time frame?

    For you, the best tool might always be C. I don’t know how you’ve specialized or what you do, but C is powerful. Maybe you have an orderly thought process code meticulously, maybe you struggle to learn new languages. Maybe there’s just no better option for the jobs you take on

    For me, C is rarely the answer. Not never, but outside of school I can count on one hand how many times I’ve chosen it. I code intuitively and feel how the code fits together, I can pick up languages on the spot and switch even more easily. But I’m not meticulous, it’s against my nature. I make mistakes frequently - but I learn by doing, and I don’t need to understand to start doing

    All that said, why do we keep making languages and frameworks? Because as programmers, we build the tools. We can also share them without losing them. The perfect tool for one job won’t be the same for any other job, but a pretty good tool for many jobs is a valuable tool

    The trade-off with our tools is between power, versatility, and cost (generally being time). We all want powerful and versatile tools - but our time is limited, and so we can’t afford the cost

    Ultimately, I think you’ve correctly spotted a recurring problem but misidentified the cause. The cause isn’t the tools, it’s the fact that the cost is someone else’s time. And the fact we have no way to translate money into their time

    A corporation can fund a team to continuously develop a tool they rely on. An individual can’t - we could chip in a few bucks here and there, but we use a lot of tools. We don’t know good tools from bad ones until we use them, we don’t know what tools are used to build the ones we need either.

    So everyone and their mom wants to build a service to fund work on their tools. I hate services, I don’t want to give them my data or my money - I want tools that will work on my devices, not because I don’t want to deny them pay for their work, but because I pick up, drop, and modify tools all the time

    That’s the real problem - if I could donate x dollars a month to support the tools I use, I would. If I could choose for us all to pay more taxes to support the tools we all use, I would take that deal. Hell, I’d go through the effort to generalize my personal tools

    Instead, the only real profit to be had in OSS comes from companies, because they can afford to fund them directly, or services, which individuals tend to hate but companies barely notice. The tools aren’t the problem - the economics are the problem




  • theneverfox@pawb.socialto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneRule
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    No, it has a recurring theme of transformation. You could read the first part as a trans allegory, but you could squint and do the same for Star wars or Harry Potter. It’s the story of the chosen one

    Not everything written by a trans person is a trans allegory. Trans people can tell other stories…a trans allegory is about that specific personal journey, not just influenced by it



  • theneverfox@pawb.socialtoAnimemes@ani.socialRelatable
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    2 months ago

    There are levels to programming.

    It’s fun to solve simple problems effortlessly. It’s fun to solve hard problems after banging your head against the wall for a week

    Simple problems that require a lot of code are not fun. Neither are medium problems that require a lot of code. Herd problems that require a lot of code fill me with joy.

    Programming is like an abusive relationship. Mostly days it just hurts you. But when it’s good it’s great… It doesn’t just give you the satisfaction of a job well done, it expands you mind


  • theneverfox@pawb.socialto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneLinux rule
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    2 months ago

    Also, every other week we get another reason to make it a priority

    The arguments against it boil down to “it’s different and scary/I don’t understand it”, “there’s compatibility issues that might be complicated to fix”, or “well what we have now is good enough for my needs”


  • theneverfox@pawb.socialto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneConstruct rule
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    2 months ago

    I don’t disagree with that position… As a next step, it seems pretty sensible to me

    To truly understand where you stand, you have to break false dichotomy - political platforms aren’t one or two dimensional, they’re multifaceted. IMO you have to pick an end goal, and chart a course towards it

    Personally, my end goal is solar punk. I want to live in a green world with technology. To get there, I full throatedly resist authoritarianism or centralization of any kind- I believe the larger it is, the more it’ll attract sociopaths seeking power for powers sake

    Eco socialism is a step in my desired direction - I have no issue with it. It’s a sensible waypoint and I’d gladly join hands with those who see it as the end goal. But I’d encourage you to chat with gpt (or better yet, local AI) in the context of your end goal and the next step to get there - LLMs are an extension of the user, and I think this is a proper use of the technology