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Cake day: November 15th, 2024

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  • A shocking number of people feel this way, including myself, but damn if I don’t love my boobs now.

    I’ve talked with some cis women as well and apparently the feeling is pretty common for them too when they go through puberty. Boobs are kinda awkward, and very visible and draw attention, so there’s kind of a natural hesitancy about them in the back of your mind.








  • It’s like in a romance language. If it’s mixed genders, then no, but if it’s only women, then yes. If I’m in a mixed group of friends, “You guys” is totally fine, but if I’m solely with my transfem friends and someone says “You guys” to us, it feels tone deaf at best and like pretty blatant misgendering at worst.

    I get this when we’re at restaurants sometimes and it’s pretty clear when the waitstaff are being rude. Table of all cis women next to us? “Can I get you girls anything else?” Our table of transwomen clearly presenting femme? “Can I get you guys anything else?” kinda sucks.

    Unironically, “Y’all” has become a significant part of my vernacular when talking to groups of people, but especially around my queer peeps because it covers every possible option, including those outside the gender binary.











  • Congratulations! I’m just past a month, and I absolutely get it. It’s especially fun on those days when you’re feeling extra dysphoric 🥲

    Something that’s helped me a lot was realizing that it’s just a really lazy coping/defense mechanism from the brain. Being trans is kind of (incredibly) scary, and so it’s just those echos of fear and doubt saying “Well, maybe if you just weren’t trans, things would be way easier!”. Then you can calmly tell that to shut the hell up, and continue living your best life :3