I believe to share from Mastodon you tag the Lemmy community in your post.

Personally I’m not sure I really shut down my laptop. Only restart as required. But now I think about it, boot time is important for restarts!

Isn’t your laptop use case the reason that sleep exists?

My biggest issue with Friendica is that the very top thing I want social media for is to share photos and videos in a private way with friends and family. Of you have to upload your video to YouTube before posting the URLthen that is a terrible experience.

Facebook lets you just grab your photos and vidros and upload them to your post. It automatically converts them from the 200MB+ per minute file your phone made into a 40MB per minute file, so people watching on their phones don’t chew through their data allowance or be unable to play it due to slow internet. It shows the photos in a seamless galley.

I would be willing to put up with almost any other issues if this part was a seamless and user friendly experience, of which no self-hosted Facebook replacement (federated or not) that I have seen can do.

Can I use a voice assistant in HA to add, remove, and read out items on my shopping list? The build in one doesn’t seem to have this ability yet.

As a matrix user, I think it’s a bit early for nontechnical crowds. Apparently big improvements are incoming though.

It won’t feel like a blink at the time 😆. Oh god those early months are hard, though as many people will say it doesn’t get less hard just hard in different ways (terrible twos, threenagers, fucking fours). My books got refined to the kids, and it’s been a few years now, but I seem to recall “how to talk so little kids will listen” is a good entry point. This is for ages 2-7 because it’s around the tantrum starting age (2ish). There’s a much older and much more famous book called “how to talk so kids will listen”, it’s also good but I’m not sure if you get much more if you’ve read the “little kids” version (which was written by the daughter of the original book). The newer one also feels more modern. I might revisit the older one when I reach teenage years (which I’m told start at 9 or earlier 😅).

I seem to also remember liking one called Playful Parenting, which is written by a child psychologist that specialises in play therapy. There’s also a follow up book called The Art of Roughhousing that was written after he emphasised in Playful Parenting the important of roughhousing and people didn’t know how. Literally just pages of cool things to do at each age (think of Bluey and Bingo mountain climbing - you might not (yet) know what I mean but I know plenty of childless/free adults that love watching bluey).

A bit older, The Explosive Child, which is probably around age 5 or 6. It’s about kids who have trouble regulating emotion, and strategies - often this is ADHD. This one made the list due to our specific kids. Maybe they have books to help parents of kids who do what they are asked and behave all the time, but such a book wouldn’t be useful to me 🥴

I also recall The Whole Brain Child was good, but I can’t recall what it was about. That might be a more general one, a good starting point for someone a little while away from tantrums.

A couple I still have on my list are Raising Good Humans and The Book you Wish your Parents had Read. I have started on the latter and not yet sure if it’s going to click with me. Lots of focus on mindfulness, and on journaling about how you were raised and feelings that come up and so on - the intent seems to be to be more in control in the moment and less “yelly”. I’m not too far in though.

Oh another is The Gardner and the Carpenter. If I remember right this one emphasised that you are not a carpenter, sculpting your child into what you want them to be, but rather you are more like a gardener, there to pull the weeds out but letting your child grow to be themself. I can’t remember much more than that.

I seem to recall most of the books were more practically useful from ages 2 onwards, but I still found it helpful to read a few books in advance of this just to work out what sort of parent I was trying to be.

I’ve listed a few, I think a good approach is to start a list. Write down the books, subscribe to parenting communties, and pick one that seems like a good starting point. Then as others recommend books, you can add them to your list. If you see the same ones come up multiple times then bump them up the list to be read sooner.

I’m a yes on kids and no regrets on having them. But I have a few comments on it.

• Kids can be very different. Don’t decide based on how much you like someone else’s kid.
• Having kids is great and gives life meaning and all that crap, but very few people start wanting kids after having them. If you aren’t sure you want kids, please don’t have kids! Not even one! The very least you owe a kid is a parent that wants them.
• If you do have kids, read a parenting book. Even better, read one or two every year. There are heaps of ideas on getting kids to cooperate, and arguably more important, making sure you don’t actively hurt them, don’t destroy their self esteem, make them live in fear of you, etc. I say read many because you’ll find common themes, and ideas that click with you and work with your unique kids. One of the first ones I read suggested buying a baby gate so you could lock your two year old in their room alone when they were “naughty”, pretty glad I kept reading other books.

And this is important to me but apparently not so much to others, but we are well onto the area of unsolicited advice and I’m rambling now so I’m just gonna say it: you have one job, you’re raising adults. Make them cable, functioning adults but even more so do everything you can to make sure they make it to adulthood in good shape! Teeth get brushed twice a day, every day, no exceptions. Put them in a car seat every single time, don’t be that parent driving their preschooler around with no car seat. The recommendations for what age to use car seats until are probably a lot older age than you’re expected, do some reading. (also no kids under 12 in the front seat if there’s an air bag). Watch them properly near water. Driveways are not playing areas. If you live near an ozone hole like I do then it’s important to know that one bad sunburn as a kid can be a death sentence when they are older.

A shitload of kids never grow up for completely preventable reasons. One. Job. If you’re gonna do it, make sure you take it seriously.

Also we live in different times. Google the shit out of any question you have. You can use incognito for the really stupid ones but still Google them if you aren’t sure and it might be important.

Yes this rant was brought to you by some horrifying things I’ve seen.

Reading some of the comments from the original post, it seems this is a trademark squatting situation. They registered the trademark (among many others I’m sure), then when they found a real tool they quickly built something similar and released it to support their claim. Suggestions on that post are that it happens all the time and ignoring them until it actually goes to arbitration is the best option (with the assumption that it would never get that far).

Regardless of the team dynamics, what I was getting at is simply that a CEO runs the company, and is generally not involved in minor decisions. But he is moving into a product strategy role, one that by definition is focused on what the product (mastodon) does.

He is stepping away from the CEO role to focus on the product. That means you are not getting anything he doesn’t want, if anything he has more control over the functionality of Mastodon.

I have one of these that I use for Pi-hole. I bought it as soon as they were available. Didn’t realise it was 2012, seemed earlier than that.

Well I noticed the article has a picture of a completely different type of hot dog than what I assume they actually banned*. Does that count as a hotdog sausage?

* In New Zealand a “Hot dog” is more similar to what would be called a “Corn dog” in the US. A hot dog sausage in bread would be referred to as an “American hot dog”.

Maybe, but it talks about popular street food in another part of the article so it seems not all food is hand delivered from the government. And a hot dog is “just” a sausage in a bun, I’d think bread and sausages would be reasonably common where food is a problem but maybe I’m wrong.

Yeah that was my line of thinking.

How do people keep up with all these petty laws? If my country banned hotdogs there’s a decent chance I’d miss the announcement and accidentally put a frankfurter in a bun. I could miss it completely and I have internet! How does your average person on North Korea find out about this ban on putting sausages in bread?

NZ Herald is borderline tabloid. They just want the clicks. And then paywall some articles. And I’m pretty sure they were the ones caught using ChatGPT to write articles. I’m in NZ and actively avoid them.

Yeah we have that here too. And 3-4x the impact because of measuring in litres not gallons.

Ok apparently Illinois has a 39c per gallon gasoline tax, another 18c in federal, and another 6% or so on state sales tax, plus any regional sales tax. It’s unclear whether the sales tax applies to the gasoline tax (in NZ it does), but let’s assume it doesn’t. Then that’s $3 - 0.39 - 0.18 = $2.43 then remove 6% tax is 2.43/106*100 = $2.29

We can probably knock a bit more off because there is probably some regional/city sales tax but it should be the right ballpark.

It does seem we pay about the same for petrol, though from what I’ve been searching up, this is wildly different across states because states have much different ways of paying for roads (e.g. Hawai’i is mostly taxed at the pump where as Alaska has big taxes on oil extraction to keep taxes for residents low, including for roading).

Huh, the US gets another layer more confusing. Tax is included in gas prices but not in anything else? How do the arguments for not including that tax in the price stack up when gas stations are already including it?