Try tailscale for remote acess run it as a docker container. I csnt help you with the other questions.

Streaming quality is horrible compared to bluray and a lot of movies never make it to the streaming platforms. DVD’s are terrible but I some movies never made it to bluray of streaming.

If you need something running fast and easy buy a synology nas. Not the best hardware and expensive geat if youi dont have the time to mess around with stuf like unraid etc. There a lots of great guides on setting op docker containers on that. https://drfrankenstein.co.uk/ is a geat example of easy to follow guides.

Look into open therm gateway with something like a dumb Honeywell Round modulating thermostat unless your thermostat already supports open therm.